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I Feel Left Out - serp3821 - 04-05-2009 06:09 AM My friend found a new best friend what do I do? we barely talk and when I call my friend my friend doesn`t answer... and sometimes when my friend does answer my friend has his new best friend there at my friends place but i am still in his tops like im his second tops what do I do? lol seriously Re: I Feel Left Out - Majick - 04-05-2009 06:15 AM Just let your friend have fun. Believe me, being jealous and freaking out will only make it worse. I have a friend that I've known since we were in 2nd grade (we'll call her C).  In high school I made another best friend (we'll call her M), and I spent more time with M than with C.  After a while, C started calling at all hours of the day/night, possessively.  She hated that I had a new friend and wasn't spending all my time with her anymore.  It made me mad, and made me want to spend Less time with her. Even as we got older, she never got over it, C and M were never very good friends, even to this day C and M barely talk, and try to avoid each other if possible, although C is making more of an effort to get to know and be nice to M ... and that's 10 years later.  Maybe you should try getting to know your friend's new friend.  Next time you get them on the phone, or send them an email, mention you're feeling left out and that you'd like to have a chance to get to know this new friend too.  That there should be no reason why the 3 of you can't hang out together. But don't call/email obsessively, that will only make it worse, trust me.  Having been in your friends position, it's just because they are new and it's different.  It's always nice to have something new, and to get to know this person.  It's exciting and nice to have a change of face and personality; but that doesn't mean they don't want to be your friend anymore.  Maybe give them some space/time to just be the two of them, before asking if you can join them. I hope this helps :3 • • • • • • Re: I Feel Left Out - serp3821 - 04-05-2009 06:19 AM thank you so much!!!! Karma for you lol Re: I Feel Left Out - Majick - 04-05-2009 06:20 AM Aww, you're very welcome :3  And thank you, too. Re: I Feel Left Out - serp3821 - 04-05-2009 06:21 AM lol when i saw your message i was like this is going to be long but it turns out that it did help its just kind of weird not being with my best friend that often Re: I Feel Left Out - Majick - 04-05-2009 06:33 AM Yeah, I know how that is. A few years ago I was in C's position, M made a bunch of new friends and was always going out with them, and I never saw her anymore.  And, like you, I'd call her and never get an answer.  And when she did answer, she was heading out the door to go see her new friends.  I left her alone for a month or so, then when I called her one day she was like "Oh wow, it's been a while ... let's go see a movie!"  and then she eventually introduced me to her new friends :3  So, give it time, be patient and ride it out.  It'll be okay! • • • • • • Re: I Feel Left Out - serp3821 - 04-05-2009 06:37 AM but friends come and go thats sad though you wish you could stay with the same people 4ever but it doesn't happen you change a lot Re: I Feel Left Out - Majick - 04-05-2009 06:38 AM This is true too.  It is possible your friend has "out grown" you, but don't think about that just yet.  Give it some time, and see what happens.  Like I said, it's most likely that they're just excited to have someone new around :3 • • • • • • Re: I Feel Left Out - serp3821 - 04-05-2009 06:40 AM no, i dont think that my friend has outgrown me but i just think like you said, he found a new friend and its exciting and it is once you find someone new you are stuck with them like glue but then it gets boring and on goes the cycle, find a new friend or go back to your old ones... Re: I Feel Left Out - Majick - 04-05-2009 06:44 AM And if he does come back, be there to welcome him!  :3 Show him there are no hard feelings and that you're willing to be as close as before.  And again, offer to meet the new person, and do some group activities or something. • • • • • •